Civil Harassment Restraining Order

Civil Harassment Restraining Order


Our Restraining Order Clinics at the Hall of Justice and South County Courthouse are open to the public.  For hours of operation, please click here:

We have also produced some sample court forms for you to use if you would like to fill out the restraining order on your own. You can use these forms as a guide, while filling out the forms.  See the links below.

To get a copy of the forms that are fillable, they can be found on the San Diego Superior Court website:,1665742&_dad=portal&_sc...

To see sample Domestic Violence Restraining Order forms (with children), click here.

To see sample Domestic Violence Restraining Order forms (without children), clieck here.

To see sample Civil Harassment Restraining Order forms, click here.

To see sample Elder Abuse Restraining Order forms, click here.

When you go to the courthouse to file, make sure to tell the sheriffs at the entrance that you are there to file or to speak to the Family Law Facilitator regarding restraining orders. Otherwise, the sheriffs will turn you away as they are trying to limit the spread of Corona Virus.

For more information on Restraining Orders please see our information pages 

Civil Harassment:

Elder Abuse:

Domestic Violence:

How to Get Help

The clinics operate on a “first come, first served basis.”  We do not take appointments, and it is important to arrive early to make sure you are helped! Once you are signed up on our sign-in sheet for the clinic, you will need to complete an application for our services.

  • Plan to spend a half-day to full-day at the courthouse to complete the process of obtaining a restraining order.
  • Restraining order paperwork must be completed and filed with the business office by 3:00 p.m. in order for the judge to make a decision that day.
    • ***Clinics are closed on court holidays.  Check court holidays here.

South County Clinic
Every Monday-Friday from 9:00 AM to 4:30 PM
South County Courthouse
500 3rd Avenue, Room 155
Chula Vista, CA 91910
You must sign in before 3:30 p.m. for assistance.
Free parking at courthouse parking lots or in residential neighborhood.

East County Clinic
Every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from
8:30 AM to 12:00 PM
East County Courthouse
250 E. Main Street, 1st Floor, next to Dept. 1
El Cajon, CA 92020
Free parking at courthouse parking lots, overflow court parking or in residential neighborhood.

Hall of of Justice Clinic
Every Monday-Friday from 8:30 AM to 12:00 PM
Hall of Justice Courthouse
330 W. Broadway, 2nd Floor next to the Civil Business office
San Diego, CA 92101
Parking is a challenge. Be Prepared to pay for metered parking, pay to park in a lot, or park in a free space farther away and walk to the courthouse. There are also trolley/bus stops near the Courthouse.


What We Do

  • Assist with the court forms required to petition for a Civil Harassment Restraining Order.
  • Assist with the court forms to respond to a Civil Harassment Restraining Order.
  • Explain your legal options and provide information and education on Civil Harassment Restraining Orders.

We do NOT offer legal advice or represent you at your court hearing.

Preparing For Your Visit to the Clinic

  • Have the full name, description and address (if possible) of the person you want restrained.  If the person you want restrained does not already know your address, be prepared to provide an address you are comfortable with that person knowing.  They will need to have an address at which you can be served (by mail) with any response that may be filed.
  • Make a written record of specific examples with the dates/times that the person has abused you and be prepared to provide this information at the clinic.
  • Bring any police report or other written evidence of the harassment.

Self Help Documents/Pleadings

  1. Civil Harassment Petitioner Packet (if you are requesting a restraining order)
  2. Civil Harassment Respondent Packet (if you are responding to a restraining order placed on you)

Civil Harassment Information

What is a Civil Harassment Restraining order?

In general, civil harassment is abuse, threats of abuse, stalking, sexual assault, or serious harassment by

  • Someone you have not dated and is NOT closely related to you, like a neighbor, a roommate, or a friend (that you have never dated);
  • A family member that is not included in the list under domestic violence.  For example, abuse from an aunt or uncle, niece or nephew, or cousin, is considered civil harassment and NOT domestic violence.

The civil harassment laws say “harassment” is:

  • Unlawful violence like assault, battery or stalking, OR
  • A credible (real) threat of violence, AND
  • The violence or threats seriously scare, annoy, or harass someone and there is no valid reason for it.  

“Credible threat of violence” means intentionally saying something or acting in a way that would make a reasonable person afraid for his or her safety or the safety of his or her family.  A “credible threat of violence” includes following or stalking someone, making harassing calls, or sending harassing messages, by phone, mail, or e-mail, over a period of time (even if it is a short time).

What Can a Restraining Order Do?

A restraining order is a court order. It can order the restrained person to:

  • Not contact you or any member of your household;
  • Not go near you, your children, or others who live with you, no matter where you go;
  • Stay away from your work, your school, or your children’s school; and
  • Not have a gun.

Once the court issues (grants) a restraining order, it goes into a statewide computer system. This means that law enforcement officers across California can see there is a restraining order in place.

When you go to court for the hearing that was scheduled for your TRO, the judge may issue a "permanent" restraining order.  They are not really "permanent" but can last up to 5 years.  Before the end of those 5 years (or whenever your order runs out), you can ask to renew the restraining order to last a longer period or permanently so you can remain protected.

Effect of a Restraining Order on the Restrained Person

For the person to be restrained, the consequences of having a court order against him or her can be very severe.

  • He or she will not be able to go to certain places or do certain things.
  • He or she will generally not be able to own a gun. (And he or she will have to turn in or sell any guns he or she has and will not be able to buy a gun while the restraining order is in effect.)
  • The restraining order may affect his or her immigration status. If you are a person to be restrained and you are worried about this, talk to an immigration lawyer to find out if you will be affected.

If the person to be restrained violates the restraining order, he or she may go to jail, pay a fine, or both.

Are there fees to file a Civil Harassment Restraining Order?

There may be court fees to file Civil Harassment Restraining Order papers at the court.  Fees may be waived if there is violence, threat of violence, stalking, or if you are entitled to a fee waiver.

Helpful Links

San Diego Court website on Civil Harassment Restraining Orders, click here

Mediation services for Civil Harassment:

  • In the Central, East or South County Divisions, the National Conflict Resolution Center may be able to provide mediation services without any cost to you or the other party.
  • In the North County Division, North County Lifeline may be able to provide mediation services without any cost to you or the other party.